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Mary Poppins is the Best Kind of Adult

Updated: Nov 4, 2021

“We’re on the brink of an adventure children, don’t spoil it with questions. “ ~ Mary Poppins Mary Poppins could’ve been a graduate of the Silva Method thinking this way. :-) Asking too many questions can put such a damper on things. Yet as adults, we become so serious and demanding because we want to know exactly what comes next, that we lose our sense of adventure, wonder and uncertainty. After all, what is an adventure if not uncertain? So why do we crave knowing? Knowing what comes next, when, where and so on. Because we have forgotten what it’s like to play! Would you agree? You see, playing is learning in a relaxed and unconstrained manner. But in school we have been told how to learn, what to learn, and that if we don’t learn what the teacher tells us to learn, we will be punished. Either with bad marks or a call to our parents. However, the way we have done, is not the best way to do it. Neuroscience has been studying how play affects our learnin in a white paper titled Neuroscience and Learning Through Play: A Review of the Evidence ) The researchers find that each characteristic – joy, meaning, active engagement, iteration, and social interaction – is associated with brain processes involved in learning. These processes include reward, memory, cognitive flexibility, and stress regulation that are activated during learning and serve to prepare a child’s brain for further development. But I am sure you don’t need a white paper to tell you that! You experience it every single day. You have a hobby because you enjoy it. Because it gives you satisfaction and joy, yet it’s something that you learn on your own, at your own pace with the focus on the experience you are having throughout. It’s almost like playing, for it’s not about the outcome primarily, but the challenge or just the overall journey getting there. And this what is missing from our adult lives. But, there is more to it though. As children we live in a different frame of mind, one that is more relaxed. A natural state of mind that was coined by Hans Berger who discovered that the brain emits electrical currents which speed up or slow down depending on the state of one’s mind. A child’s brain wave activity, their natural state of mind, he called alpha. In the Alpha state the brain emits an electrical current of an average of 7 hertz/second. This is the state where we are in when we play, create or listen to music, walk, meditate and are the most creative. This is the preferred state to be in. It is an effective learning and creating state. Berger also found that when people were active, their brain waves increased in speed upwards to 20 hertz/second. That is about 3x faster than in Alpha. He called this more active state of mind Beta. This is the preferred state to be in when doing something like driving your car, looking after your child, doing math equations and so on. However, it also relies on the 5 senses and cuts off intuition or your sixth sense. Ideally we would be able to move in and out of these states as required. Alpha would help us be more creative, kind, and playful. While being in Beta is key to getting some stuff done. However, when we get it done, it makes sense to go back to Alpha. If you are having trouble sleeping, relaxing or playing with children, it’s because your tendency is to be in a state of Beta or doing. When in this state, then we are focused on “I” and are disconnected from the world around us. We internalize lots of anxiety and this cause stress. So being in Beta too much, will cause physical and mental stress which will affect us. So how to get out of this crazy loop? Relax! Just relax. Get out a book and read. Go out for a walk. Have a glass of wine (not two). Play with your pet, and relax. Get yourself back into Alpha and have some fun. If you are stressed out and need some help in getting to Alpha, check out our course the Silva Method. It’ll teach you how to get there and heal your inner child.

Wishing you Abundance, Joy and Ease! Stephen

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